Generally speaking, women love
cheesy and romantic. They want to feel that spark or the butterflies for the
entire length of a relationship and not just at the beginning. The problem is,
the longer that we are in a relationship, the more “comfortable” we tend to get
which means less effort is made and that is when the thrill starts to die out.
When it comes to romance, so many
people are in the dark about being romantic. Aside from the typical chocolates,
roses, and teddy bear, their “romantometer” is dead. I have heard countless
women complain that their partners are just not romantic enough. They rant
about how things have just seemed to die out and the passion needs to be
rekindled but their partner doesn’t have a clue how to do it. Romance is
necessary for a woman because it is your way of expressing love to her in the
way that she needs to feel special. As a guide for the terminally clueless,
here are some ideas on how to really make your woman feel special.
1.
Get her flowers, but not just any kind, get her
a special bouquet with a variety of very particular booms. There is a floral
language of love and different flowers mean different things. For example, a
white rose means purity while red camellias symbolize passion. You have the
internet and google the latest basketball scores, so why not look up a chart on
flowers and their meanings? Find the flowers that best describes all of the
reasons why you love your partner. Then go out and have a bouquet made of these
blossoms and write a nice card to your loved one with the names of the flowers,
their meanings, and why you chose those flowers for her.
2.
Leave sweet notes for her hidden throughout the
house that say things like “You’re the most beautiful woman I have ever seen”
or “I am the luckiest person in the world to have found a woman like you”.
Don’t tell her about these note and make sure that some are better hidden than
others. This way she finds these notes over a period of days if not weeks. When
she mentions it, just kiss her and tell her that you love her and you just
wanted her to know. Don’t tell her there are more, just let her figure that out
herself. If you are having trouble thinking of places to hide them, try of
places like her sock drawer, her purse, her makeup bag, the freezer, in her
car, or maybe underneath her pillow. The goal is that she does not find all of
these at one time; make it like an Easter egg hunt and put some notes in
obvious places while others need to be more securely hidden. In addition to
this, you can write “I love you,” on the outside of the eggshells in the fridge
with sharpie. Things like this make sensitive women melt.
3.
The next time that you both have an argument, go
out and get her something special that she has been wanting for a while. Don’t
tell her what you are doing, just go get it. Then write a little note on it or
on a card that says, “You are just as beautiful today as the first day that I
saw you.” When you get back, give it to her, and walk away. Let her cool off
and also see that you genuinely love her no matter how hard times get. Just
because you disagree or argue with someone doesn’t mean that you don’t love
them. Remind her and remember yourself.
4.
A good old traditional picnic is a nice way to
say, “I love you.” Buy a small bouquet of flowers, dress nicely and have a nice
lunch set up at a beautiful park, by a lake, or beside a mountain. Do it
accordingly to what landscape she finds the most beautiful. If she likes water
set it up beside a pond, lake, or by the beach. If she likes to hike then set
up the picnic in view of the mountains or by a mountain (so you can hike with
her afterwards). If she likes flowers and parks then go to a park with a lot of
flowers in it. Make sure that lunch consists only of her favorite foods- it’s
about her, not you. If that is macaroni and cheese, chicken, walnuts, brownies,
mashed potatoes, and peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, then by god do it. The
foods don’t have to match because this isn’t about the food. This is a
non-verbal way of saying, “I notice the little things and want to make you
happy.”
5.
Let’s just say that your partner has always
wanted to go to Paris but you don’t have the money to take her there. Download
romantic French music off of the internet. If you don’t know how that sounds
like, google it. Then get a nice table cloth, two white pillar candles, and put
a small statue of the Eiffel tower in the center of the table. Look up on the
internet authentic French recipes and try your hardest to cook some. If you are a terrible cook then have a backup
food- her favorite meal from her favorite restaurant. If the food you cooked
turns out well, then tell her that there is a lunch for her tomorrow that you
picked up for her to enjoy, and she can find it in the fridge. If the food
turns out terrible, just admit to being a terrible cook, have a good laugh and
tell her not to worry that you picked up her favorite meal, just in case. It’s
a win-win.
6.
When your partner first wakes up, look at her
deep in her eyes and tell her that you think she looks breathtaking. Gently
touch her face or caress her arm while telling her this to make it more of an
intimate touch. That wasn’t hard was it?
7.
Although cliché, breakfast in bed is always a
pleasant thing to wake up to. Make the extra effort and use fresh squeezed
oranges for her juice, while scrambling eggs add a touch of milk to make them extra
fluffy, a slice of toast with her favorite jelly, and cut fresh fruit in a mini
fruit salad. Add a single flower beside the plate and write on her napkin a
cute poem that you got off of the internet, or better still, one that you wrote.
Even someone cheesy like, “Roses are red, violets are blue, you’re the best
woman ever, so I made some stew” will be sure to bring a smile to her face.
Then serve the food on a tray and put on some soothing music. If you have kids,
take care of them for her so that the only person that she needs to worry about
is herself.
8.
If your partner has been stressed out about work
or life in general, when she gets home from work, surprise her with a clean
house and a fresh meal on the table. If you know that she has some errands to
run, like picking up clothes from the drycleaner, do them yourself and send her
a quick text that you took care of things. Trust me, in her eyes you will be
her hero.
9.
Buy her favorite lotion and use it to randomly
give her massages without expecting anything in return. Even a quick ten minute
massage can mean the world to a woman after having a rough day or when not
feeling well.
10.
Take your partner on a walk at night under the
stars. If you see a shooting star, point it out and name out a wish based on
something about her. This could be, “My wish is that you will be happy everyday
for the rest of your life.” Or “My wish is that we will live to be a hundred
years old together.”
The small romantic things that you
do for us, we hold onto and treasure. It helps boost our day. I still remember
small romantic things that people in my life have done for me, even years
later. So take notes and start showing
her that you can in fact be the romantic man that she longs for. A little
appreciation can go a long way.
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