Revenge is something that glorified in today’s
society. I freely admit it, I used to believe in revenge. I would look at the
person who wronged me, smile, and say or at least think, “Just wait, you will
see what happens when you mess with someone like me.” I felt this sick satisfaction
when I thought that I had gotten even with someone, not realizing that I was
actually absorbing my own toxicity and not only hurting someone else but lower
myself as a person. I would laugh and
say, “Karma is a bitch,” when I would see the outcome, believing that, “an eye
for an eye” was the way to go because of what society instilled in my head. I
genuinely believed what I was doing was justified because they had initially
wronged me.
Upon reflection, I realized that this is wrong and
initiates a self-perpetuating spiral of negativity. It is never okay to hurt
someone else, even if they have hurt you. You are not responsible for
delivering Karmic justice and, “getting even” is still harming someone else,
regardless of what they did to you. By harming someone else, you are also
harming yourself because you have allowed another person’s actions to affect
you so negatively that you think there is a justification to doing intentional
harm. There is no justification, and there is no end to the tit-for-tat of pain
and negative energy.
When someone wrongs me, I feel like there is a pit
growing in my stomach and a weight on my shoulders. I now realize that
retaliating is not the path to removing these negative feelings.
The best way to, “get even” is to forgive.
Forgiveness is not taking the easy way out. It is one of the hardest things to
do because when we are hurt, the last thing on our mind is to forgive the other
person and to realize that the person that hurt you did that because they
themselves are in pain. You have to realize that you are not forgiving the
other person for them, you are forgiving them for yourself. You are loving
yourself because retaliation and retribution are wastes of your time and
energy. They lower your spirit for a
momentary animalistic sense of relief and often have unintended long-term
consequences. Forgiveness takes away the
dark bitterness in your own heart and replaces it with light. Forgiveness
allows you to move on and truly live your life. Just because you forgive
doesn’t mean that you forget, but it does mean that you keep moving forward in
life. It means that you love yourself enough to not allow the darkness to
reside for very long. When you forgive, you telling yourself, “I don’t deserve
to live life in the bondage of someone else’s pain.” You are deciding that you
want to be happy and free.
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